Humm!!! You are trying to make some money? you won’t baby!… I will destroy your porn empire… I guarantee it asshole… one way or another, sooner or later. I will get you… You will die in the Philippines, where funerals are cheap, but no one of your beloved will assist.No one will miss you. With the exception of Paul Petrea and Perry Gambsy. Assuming that before you die, you have sent them some money to pay for their ticket.                                                           Evan Iliadis

This was posted to my blog Christopher Bennetts – Accepting the Responsibility of Parenthood which is my personal site about bringing up children.  An area I am very intereted in.

I have received very similar death threats in the past from him using different names (3 different names but the same IP address meaning the same computer).  

I do feel pity for Evan.  He must be a very sad and lonely old man.  If he only new that if he stopped sending out hate to the world and starting to send only love then love would come back to him.  

I wish he would destroy the “porn empire” which is a figment of his immagination and can therefore only be destroyed in his own mind. 

Peace

Christopher Bennetts

My first impression was that Evan might actually believe he had a genuine grievance against the Rotary clubs in the Philippines and had simply become a man obsessed blind to rational consideration.  Thus I wrote my appeal to him that it was a time to let go.  I followed this up with another post advising him to choose your battles wisely which also assumed he might genuinely obsessed.

I was going through a difficult time with an encounter with a psychopath and he and Evan Iliadis got connected via the internet and without question Evan published lies about me provided by the Psychopath.   I later come to know that he added some of his own embellishments which at first I assumed it all came from the Psychopath.

Not realizing his real motivation I responded to and refuted his allegations on another blog of mine but soon discovered Evan was not at all interested in the truth.  He was a sad sick mind seeking maximum attention and deriving pleasure from the anguish he could cause others.

I have moved the posts from my other blogs to this blog which I feel is more appropriate.

This was originally posted on another blog of mine in early 2009 when I first become aware that Evan had included me on his hate site against Philippines Rotary. It was an appeal to him I made before I realized his true motivation as a cyber stalker seeking attention. Of course my appeal was futile but I am including it here as the message is still valid and might help someone regain perspective.  See  My Initial Response to Evan

Today I had the experience of seeing what I could have become. A sort of “there go I but for the grace of God” type of realization.

I have mentioned in previous posts my encounter with a psychopath and how it took me off the rails for the previous year. I was deeply affected by this experience and actually vented all my emotions including bitterness and anger on a website I made dedicated to the love of my son who was taken away from me by this psychopath.

Well it seems that the Psychopath has found an ally in another guy who is bitter and twisted about being kicked out of an organization which I am currently a member and serving as a president.

He has attacked me personally on his website using false allegations made against me by the psychopath. His vitriolic website has been running for a few years attacking the organization and any members of it who do not support him.

He has chosen to attack me purely because I am associated with this organization he is running his own personal war against.

He claims to take high moral ground in attacking me but if he is honest to himself then he knows he has only attacked me because I am currently serving as a president within that organization he hates.

The guy seeks revenge against an organization that he feels has wronged him.

“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” – Confucius

The reality is he is only digging his own early grave because the organization he is attacking is too big and impersonal to care about him. His attempts to attack and embarrass it are futile.

This guy attacked me a perfect stranger in order to send another volley at the organization he hates with every being of his body. In particular I resent that he also negated my love for my son as part of his attack.

I recognise that I could have gone down the path he has. My website was similar to his but I do not believe it was anywhere near as vitriolic. Mind you that could have come in time if I allowed it to become an obsession as his war against this organization has become.

Friends warned me that it was becoming an obsession with me many advised me to pull back. Many of my friends told me to close the site and get on with my life. These are real friends who care about me. I wonder if he had friends to tell him to let it go. If he did then perhaps he ignored them.

There is a time to let go and I have been fortunate enough to recognise it before I too became a bitter, angry and twisted person.

This guy also needs to let go and take back control of his life. He needs to sit down and really re-evaluate his life. He is only harming himself by continuing to hold all these feelings of anger and hatred.

The guy wants me to resign from this organization. He might be surprised to learn that I am most willing to do so. In fact I have been looking forward to the end of the term as it’s just not important to me now. I have made it clear to the organization that my resignation is there for the asking. If it’s asked for then this guy will feel that he has won a great victory but in reality he will have gained nothing at all.

This was originally posted on another blog of mine in early 2009 when I first become aware that Evan had included me on his hate site against Philippines Rotary. It was an appeal to him I made before I realized his true motivation as a cyber stalker seeking attention. Of course my appeal was futile but I am including it here as the message is still valid and might help someone regain perspective.  See  My Initial Response to Evan

I have been reflecting further upon the subject of my last post A Time To Let Go with the advice I would give the person that there comes a time to let go.

I am reminded of Sun Tsu who advised us to “choose your battles wisely” and “do not fight battles you cannot win”.

This really applies to the guy I wrote about in the last post.

I wonder why he has become so obsessed with attacking an organization.  What makes it pointless is that even if there was a chance of some sort of victory there is no prize waiting for either victor.

He considers himself a whistle blower and in general I applaud anyone exposing corruption or wrong doing.  If he had a purpose or ultimate goal it is lost in the content of his vitriolic website and I suspect he has long since lost sight of it anyway.

In contrast I recently saw a movie about an inventor who waged a 25 year war against a corporation that ripped off his invention.  The guy eventually won and received a huge payout and the recognition that he wanted.  Along the way the corporation had offered him several million dollars to settle but on principle he demanded acknowledgment for his invention.

His great victory came at a high cost to his personal life and emotional well being. It cost him his job, this marriage and even his mental health as he spent some time in a mental asylum when he had a break down and became delusional.

Was the 25 years of struggle worth it?  Well he did eventually win and received the recognition he wanted as well as massive financial compensation.  He also won a huge victory for the common man demonstrating that a goliath cannot just trample all over them without being challenged.  We can all be thankful that there are guys like him willing to fight for justice.

I think most people would say his struggle was worth it despite the personal sacrifice, but do we really appreciate the true cost of that sacrifice.   Twenty five years is a large portion of the average person’s life and to spend that in a bitter and struggle and it would have taken a huge toll on his health and well being.  I am talking about 25 years of unhappiness. No amount of money or recognition can get that back.

The movie is called a Flash of Genius and about Robert Kearns, Inventor of Intermittent Windshield Wipers who took on the Ford Motor company and others.  He died in 2005 of brain cancer complicated by Alzheimer’s disease at age 77.

Sadly despite the apparent vindication and $30 million dollar settlement he never got what he had sought from the beginning which was the chance to run a factory with his six children and build his wiper motors.  In 1990 he said “I need the money, but that’s not what this is about, I’ve spent a lifetime on this. This case isn’t just a trial. It’s about the meaning of Bob Kearns’s life.”

I have actually met another guy that fought and won a life long battle with a large corporation.   In this case a large Telecommunications company.  He actually won a $10 million dollar payout after the best part of 20 years and like Kearns it has taken a toll on this guys life.

The victory and money has not brought him happiness.  He still wages the same war against the telecommunications company assisting others.  For him it is an obsession and one that does not seem to bring him much joy.

So back to the advice of Sun Tsu to choose your battles wisely and avoid those you cannot win.  It is my contention that you should also consider the cause, prize and ultimate cost of victory as there may be some battles you can win which may not be worth the effort.

With the battle I undertook I was able to re-evaluate with those considerations and make the decision to let go and allow things to run their natural course.  I have had professional advise that the psychopath will eventually lose interest and abandon my ex-girlfriend and child when there is no game to play.  I am sure this is a strategy Sun Tsu would approve of.