Chris Bennetts | Christopher Bennetts

This was originally posted on another blog of mine in early 2009 when I first become aware that Evan had included me on his hate site against Philippines Rotary. It was an appeal to him I made before I realized his true motivation as a cyber stalker seeking attention. Of course my appeal was futile but I am including it here as the message is still valid and might help someone regain perspective.  See  My Initial Response to Evan

Today I had the experience of seeing what I could have become. A sort of “there go I but for the grace of God” type of realization.

I have mentioned in previous posts my encounter with a psychopath and how it took me off the rails for the previous year. I was deeply affected by this experience and actually vented all my emotions including bitterness and anger on a website I made dedicated to the love of my son who was taken away from me by this psychopath.

Well it seems that the Psychopath has found an ally in another guy who is bitter and twisted about being kicked out of an organization which I am currently a member and serving as a president.

He has attacked me personally on his website using false allegations made against me by the psychopath. His vitriolic website has been running for a few years attacking the organization and any members of it who do not support him.

He has chosen to attack me purely because I am associated with this organization he is running his own personal war against.

He claims to take high moral ground in attacking me but if he is honest to himself then he knows he has only attacked me because I am currently serving as a president within that organization he hates.

The guy seeks revenge against an organization that he feels has wronged him.

“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” – Confucius

The reality is he is only digging his own early grave because the organization he is attacking is too big and impersonal to care about him. His attempts to attack and embarrass it are futile.

This guy attacked me a perfect stranger in order to send another volley at the organization he hates with every being of his body. In particular I resent that he also negated my love for my son as part of his attack.

I recognise that I could have gone down the path he has. My website was similar to his but I do not believe it was anywhere near as vitriolic. Mind you that could have come in time if I allowed it to become an obsession as his war against this organization has become.

Friends warned me that it was becoming an obsession with me many advised me to pull back. Many of my friends told me to close the site and get on with my life. These are real friends who care about me. I wonder if he had friends to tell him to let it go. If he did then perhaps he ignored them.

There is a time to let go and I have been fortunate enough to recognise it before I too became a bitter, angry and twisted person.

This guy also needs to let go and take back control of his life. He needs to sit down and really re-evaluate his life. He is only harming himself by continuing to hold all these feelings of anger and hatred.

The guy wants me to resign from this organization. He might be surprised to learn that I am most willing to do so. In fact I have been looking forward to the end of the term as it’s just not important to me now. I have made it clear to the organization that my resignation is there for the asking. If it’s asked for then this guy will feel that he has won a great victory but in reality he will have gained nothing at all.

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